5 Yr Old Out Of Control!!? - mom spanks 10 yr old
Ok, a little history. I am the stepfather of 5 (almost 6) year old girl. It has always been a "handful", but lately, since the beginning of kindergarten and have a little sister to 7 months, were seriously out of control. It is quite what he said, and always forgets his manners, even break into tears when told to clean his room, as if it was just SOOOO overwhelming. Everyone says that it only changes or jealousy, but any form of discipline that we've tried works. Dead time (large companies) Spanking (only hurts for a minute) TV out (I'm going to annoy the crap out of the mother!) Nothing works, I mean that literally are not in trouble again after 3 minutes the first sentence and what is follows from the first 10 minutes are up to the fight before bed. Anyone who has experienced this? Any tips? Thanks
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Mom Spanks 10 Yr Old 5 Yr Old Out Of Control!!?
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Hello, I'm 6 years old. She has a younger brother with special needs is getting more attention. Nothing makes a child act as the lack of attention.
I am not against the rules or anything, but try to remember that 5 years is a very young child. You may have a different approach. If you wait for your right to discipline his act, you are stuck with him for a while. I think you and your wife should make a point of special attention and involvement in the care of their child and praise for all his help. Go there with a little ridiculous, even if only paint or play Go Fish. Whenever I made an extra attention to my daughter, her behavior has improved significantly.
If it melodramatic, you must keep a cool head, I repeat, what you expect it, and leave the room. Ignore the attacks that are launched to. If it is a reaction or a pardon for the attacks, it will not stop. It's like leaving a baby to "cryOut, "and it is difficult to put through, but this type of defect.
It is quite normal for the 5 years until his behavior is often forgotten. If she tries to remember them, you simply copy a break and remember, if necessary.
You're probably exhausted, when it comes to her, and it shows. You need to make themselves more beautiful memories with her and have a real commitment of time. I'm not saying there will never be a pain in the * ss, but help from day to day.
It is also recommended that a system to buy to use on posters and stickers, very pleasant, and what you can put stickers out to lead. Flippin my daughter like to use it. You can also "took my room" of life as every day do something that is not under water every few days or once a week or whatever. In me, I have things like "I followed the rules and guidelines" and "I had good manners" ... I have also split morning and afternoon, as each day seems a long time for a child and did not want to be "bad"And the rest of the day because of the disorder in the morning. My daughter is usually a warning, saying a day before that it loses the label. If it ever so many images (like 75% of the sticker as possible, or something) in a week, something special for them. My daughter was stars all day, and at the end of the day she gets a big shiny unicorn stickers when he is good in the table. Ahhh, my girl.
Sounds like something a child to hate, but when I stopped, lists, picked up my daughter and asked me to use. So I think you are being treated.
Sorry for the novel, I hope that helped a little. Good luck:]
Oh, even when the child starts kindergarten, it takes a lot of bad habits from school. This is normal. Just say no "That's fine" in a stern voice. Do not panic ... It is for all children in kindergarten.
It is for someone that age, it's difficult to bigger changes. Perhaps it was just a little attention, instead of lectures, excursions and time to fight. In front of the TV Put it ignores the problem. You and your wife should enjoy a special day for them. You can also leave their help feeling at the simple things for the baby involved in everything. Good luck.
You have received many answers, so I will keep short.
How will begin the long tongue and not the whole day? When my daughter had thrown every day started for 2 months until it was used all day, 5 days per week. The bottom line is that I was so tired and overwhelmed that it took place time to adjust.
I think you should take psychological tests. A father passed and a new baby is a difficult adjustment, even for a period of five years. He probably has other things on its head. Be nice to her. Be patient with her. We also talk about her. Ask what happens. Talk to your mother. She chose to marry her mother and a baby "New". Take it to a child psychologist.
I think you should take psychological tests. A father passed and a new baby is a difficult adjustment, even for a period of five years. He probably has other things on its head. Be nice to her. Be patient with her. We also talk about her. Ask what happens. Talk to your mother. She chose to marry her mother and a baby "New". Take it to a child psychologist.
would add that you should consult a physician. But whatever you do, remove time-out or hitting or toys. Do not let this girl has her way, children need discipline, structure, follow rules. and to ensure that this is the penalty if you want, UR and his wife were on the same page and will not be there, in your room for 15 minutes, then your 15 minutes, not 5 or 10 but I still like the RD case. Mr. GL.
made by one person at a particular time with you or your mother's benefit, you can if you wish, get little attention.
every time something good dose of praise in his arms, especially in front of others.
Regarding the cleaning of your room, which is more of a child older than 5 devastating, asking him to small steps, such as: "Could you please ensure no dolls in the toy box" if what is said, "Now we enter your books on the shelf, then I'll help you make the bed. "
is Getting Things Done by her younger sister and make a big deal. "Honey you tell me a favor and get your sisters diaper bag, after which they say" oh thank you very much, might as well get somewhere without my help, they are a great help.
Try it, it will work if you stick with it. You must feel something special and part of this new family.
Looks like my daughter! In fact, yesterday was a terrible day and its super! I have only one child, so I do not know what the jealousy of a whole, but in the thinking has changed much for her daughter begins with a child and the school. You must first choose your battles at some point maybe you broke with his example, if it does not really wake up and dress in the morning and not come back (lol) instead of the conduct of the battle, to say only a slide change. Second, you must choose a term and stick to it ... Who never seem to work at first, because most of the time, but if you stick to finally begin to work. and one third of all keep you .... Buisy entrusted with specific tasks that you can do with the child ... Art projects that you can do with my mother ... Playing outside with Daddy. Multiplied when they are bored, they are in difficulties. Well, I hope this helps a little.
Is your name, your role in the family, and what is it for you? Girls Want to please their parents. Did you show a little smile when he misbehaves? (the psychology book, what can one say after hello?)
Seriously, read books by Dr. James Dobson, Dare to Discipline. They have to survive. Do not make her (or society) a great disservice to tolerate this behavior. I am, you're a stepfather, but said "we tried", it seems that you and your wife together make them behave, but make sure it's the only message you receive and do not recognize a certain Pride of the seriousness of my daughter is.Carefully decide what are the rules, because if they do, you must meet. One final thought: You are either a break, because some feelings of guilt? They will take it and use it. If you think that somehow, no breaks, feel in life is so long, you should expect more from him, not less. Please let them know they can, and I love her enough torequire good behavior. LOL
I work in the field of child care for years and is a common problem for many families. I mean, even gave a demonstration of her .. It seems that only 911! I noticed a lot of people say go for it proves that it .... He might add a kind of truth is best to add, but please, what twice before all Medcine. I know its frustrating and hard as a father, but the most important things that will make a difference in behavior is not systematically girls - consistency - and particularly the time. It is necessary to take the rules seriously, and provided that, if you and your wife on the same page. Make sure you and your wife have the same performance and do not fight it - save the disputes or differences of opinion on the view behind the door. Enter your child's activities and do not sit all day in front of the TV / PC Video games help / DS. Interaction with her and give her attention. Many children misbehave as a way to attract, attention. If you are in.Sitive attention before it tries to negative attention than it helps. So the reward for a kind of cat you can help, it is a positive reinforcement. Who never go to bed on time fighting with a sheet of stickers in a species over time can still be obtained and work something special. This can really work if you are consistent! I also remember yelling at a child just an example to scream it at you. You need to talk to her and be firm, but no need to scream. only in accordance with his sentence.
I hope some of this aid. all I can say is good luck! Parenting is a difficult task that never ends. can only be the best; his time (is) in spite of its exhaustion, the most precious thing you can give to their children.
I understand ... It is the changes in the school, the nurse again .... It seems you spend the whole time of their punishment. take care of them, it is received by the desire to care and appropriate attention. Have a positive pay attention to .... I know it's hard now, but try to find something than nothing, and if he praised him, and perhaps help with the child (get a bed, a bottle or a toy )..... their behavior is no time alone with his time ... the bed is the best time, you can read a book, to ask about his day .... with dead time is only for 5 minutes (1 minute per age group) and ask him why he was in the time after 5 minutes .... up will take some time, but it is .... Work you can also talked to his teacher something going on at school and if their behavior is the same .... at school and is not ADD / ADHD symptoms are more, then .... Follow this road before, you must obtain your test and often their behavior is harmful to the school ...
No advice that the sympathy that I have a 3.5 because I am nothing to do w / out physical intervention, not only for shoes you can ask, he must take it. Every day is spreads and rages throughout the day. I warn consitently discipline, never mind. The man is an Absolut button. Nothing is "wrong" with him, but if you say perosnality left, is doing well. I am exhausted and frustrated and dream Thurs morning when preschool starts 2 monrings a week and gives me a kind of break. It is physical work for a child of 18 months, with "Endless two terrible". I hate to say it, but I feel as though I was only in rare cases more, "every day is a battle of 13 + hours with him.
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